LETTING GO

WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR US TO SAY GOODBYE? TALKING TO MY BEST FRIEND ON THE PHONE AND SHE WENT OFF TOPIC AND ASKED ME WHY IS IT EASIER TO SAY HELLO THAT IT IS TO SAY GOODBYE? BEING THE PERSON I AM I HAD TO TAKE A MOMENT AND THINK ABOUT WHAT SHE MEANT. YOU SEE I HAD NO IDEA HOW TO ANSWER, THEN I ASKED HER SAY GOODBYE TO WHAT? IS IT TO A PERSON OR JUST MAKING PEACE WITH A SITUATION? HER ANSWER WAS BOTH. THE ONLY THING I COULD DO WAS TELL HER ABOUT MY OWN EXPERIENCE WITH GOODBYES AND SEE IF SHE WOULD GET HER ANSWER.

I PERSONALLY HAVE A PROBLEM LETTING GO OF PEOPLE AND IT TOOK MY SISTER POINTING OUT FOR ME TO REALIZE AND OWN UP TO IT; THOUGH EVEN THEN I WAS STILL FINDING WAYS TO JUSTIFY HOLDING ON TO THE PERSON. EVERY EXCUSE I BROUGHT FORWARD SHE WOULD SHUT IT DOWN, UNTIL I HAD NOTHING LEFT TO SAY, MY ARGUMENTS WERE INVALID AND COULDN’T STAND UP TO LOGIC WHEN IT WAS LAID OUT FOR ME TO EXAMINE.

AS HUMAN BEINGS WE LOOK FOR THE GOOD IN OTHERS, WE WANT TO BELIEVE THAT A PERSON CAN CHANGE AND WE CLING TO THAT HOPE, IF YOUR LIKE ME YOU WILL DO EVERYTHING IN YOUR POWER TO KEEP THEM AROUND EVEN THOUGH THEY BRING NOTHING TO YOUR LIFE. YOU FIGHT TO KEEP THEM, YOU STRETCH YOURSELF THIN DOING ALL THAT YOU CAN FOR THEM, WHILE PRAYING THEY WILL START TO TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU TREAT THEM. WE LET FEAR CONTROL US; FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN, FEAR OF BEING ALONE AND OF STARTING OVER WITH SOMEONE ELSE. WE ARE SO CRIPPLED BY FEAR THAT WE MAKE EXCUSES FOR THEIR BEHAVIOR EVEN WHEN WE WERE THE ONES TO SHINE THE LIGHT ON IT AND THOSE AROUND US TOOK NOTICE AND COMMENTED; THEN WE GET MAD AND BECOME DEFENSIVE. WE START TO PRAISE THEM AND POINT OUT ALL THE GOOD THEY DO BUT NOT REALIZING WE ARE THE ONES HIGHLIGHTING THEIR NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS.

NOT BECAUSE WE WANT SOMETHING DOESN’T MEAN ITS GOOD FOR US. WE FOCUS SO MUCH ON OUR WANTS AND NEGLECT OUR NEEDS. SOME OF THESE PEOPLE WHO WE ARE FIGHTING TO HOLD ON TO DON’T FULFILL US MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, OR SPIRITUALLY. WE SETTLE FOR LESS THAN WE DESERVE BECAUSE WE GET TIRED OF WAITING ON THE PERSON THAT WILL FULFILL OUR NEEDS, WE SETTLE BECAUSE WE FEEL LIKE THINGS SHOULD BE HAPPENING NOW, WE SHOULD BE MARRIED, HAVE KIDS WHAT EVER IT IS, WE ALLOW OURSELVES TO ACCEPT MEDIOCRE TREATMENT JUST BECAUSE WE ARE AFRAID TO BE ALONE. LETTING GO OF TOXIC PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS IS NOT A BAD THING, IT ALLOWS YOU TO GROW, AND IT GIVES YOU VALUABLE LIFE EXPERIENCE, BECAUSE YOU CAN TAKE WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED AND APPLY IN THE FUTURE.

SOMETIMES WE HOLD UNTO SOMETHINGS AND IT CAUSES US TO MISS OUT ON SOMETHING EVEN MORE WONDERFUL. WHATEVER FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY YOUR CLINGING TO LET IT GO, TRUST THAT THERE IS BETTER WAITING OUT THERE FOR YOU. STOP LETTING FEAR GUIDE YOU, THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING ALONE AND TAKING THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE, OR BETTER YET TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF, ALL THE ENERGY, TIME, MONEY AND LOVE YOU WERE GIVING TO SOMEONE UNDESERVING, INVEST IT IN YOURSELF, TREAT YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF RESPECT YOURSELF ENOUGH TO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN THE BEST.

BLOCK TOXIC PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE IF YOU NEED TO. MAKE A CLEAN BREAK, DON’T FOLLOW THEM ON SOCIAL MEDIA SO YOU CAN SEE WHAT THEY’RE UP TO, DON’T ASK YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT THEM, JUST MOVE ON, LET GO AND LET GOD. WE NEED TO REALIZE SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST NOT WORTH OUR TIME. DON’T KEEP TELLING YOURSELF THAT THEY’LL CHANGE, THEY ARE THE ONE FOR YOU, THEY ARE GOOD PEOPLE; THEY MAYBE GOOD BUT IT DOESN’T MEAN THEY ARE GOOD FOR YOU. PROTECT YOUR HEART FROM WOLVES IN SHEEP CLOTHING, DON’T KEEP HOLDING ON TO POTENTIAL, SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LET A PERSON GO SO THEY CAN GROW BECAUSE YOU COULD ALSO BE STUNTING THEIR PERSONAL GROWTH. AT THE END OF THE DAY WE CAN’T CHANGE PEOPLE, A PERSON HAS TO WANT CHANGE OTHERWISE YOU WILL ALWAYS GET STUCK REPEATING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN.

LETTING GO IS HARD, CELINE DION EVEN SAID GOODBYE’S THE SADDEST WORD I’LL EVER HEAR, BUT SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO HEAR IT AND SAY IT!